EMILY EDLYNN, PHD, THE ART & SCIENCE OF MOM
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By building up and uniting mothers, are we perpetuating the very complaint that fathers don’t do their part? Are we leaving out fathers and then wishing they would do more?
We knew it was going to be a tougher conversation than we were used to, but I was not prepared for how I felt as the mother hearing my preschooler son talked about this way.
On Wednesday night, I felt like I had to make a choice: either I respond to my daughter’s emotional needs at the sacrifice of my emotional well-being, or I ignore her to take what I needed. And that’s how it feels – TAKING, which feels selfish, which is against every cultural ideal of how a mother should be.
I think this is why the end of the kindergarten year strikes with such emotion. They are growing up, out, and away from us.
So when we can work with our kids to face and do what makes them nervous, we deprive anxiety of oxygen, and build their confidence in themselves.
My personal weaknesses aside, all of this brings up the bigger parenting question: where does my license to share as a parent end, and my child’s right to decide what images and information are out there, begin?