Rewards: Bribery or Behaviorism at Its Best?

Rewards: Bribery or Behaviorism at Its Best?

 A reward system has dug my kids out of many a behavioral rut in our almost decade of parenting. That’s why reading the recent warnings about using rewards with children has simply confused me. I looked more deeply into what was going on, and I found the exact problem I set out to take on as the Art and Science of Mom – a well-intentioned misunderstanding of research findings.

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The Art and Science of Discipline -- “I’m not in the mood for effective parenting!”

The Art and Science of Discipline -- “I’m not in the mood for effective parenting!”

It is both heartbreaking and somewhat comical when our 2-year-old son says, “I don’t like when you scream at me. It cries makes me.” His brain is still learning how to put sentences together, but he sure understands enough about his emotional experience to let us know how our impatience affects him.

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