Self-Care: The Great American Lie

Self-Care: The Great American Lie

On Wednesday night, I felt like I had to make a choice: either I respond to my daughter’s emotional needs at the sacrifice of my emotional well-being, or I ignore her to take what I needed. And that’s how it feels – TAKING, which feels selfish, which is against every cultural ideal of how a mother should be.

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How to Raise Children Who Care About the World

How to Raise Children Who Care About the World

So what does it take as parents to raise our children to not only authentically care about the world outside of themselves, but also feel empowered to act on it? I share what scientists know about empathy, and common-sense ways we can nurture our children to translate that empathy into action.

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Social Media, Mental Health, and Teens

Social Media, Mental Health, and Teens

The constant stream of headlines about the dangers of social media adds stress to our baseline anxiety about parenting adolescents. No matter the generation, era, or state of technology, adolescence is a phase of huge growth and change that can be emotionally tumultuous for kids and parents alike. It also happens to be a risky time for mental health problems to show up, because of the stress of this time of life, genetic predispositions kicking in, or the combination.

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Rewards: Bribery or Behaviorism at Its Best?

Rewards: Bribery or Behaviorism at Its Best?

 A reward system has dug my kids out of many a behavioral rut in our almost decade of parenting. That’s why reading the recent warnings about using rewards with children has simply confused me. I looked more deeply into what was going on, and I found the exact problem I set out to take on as the Art and Science of Mom – a well-intentioned misunderstanding of research findings.

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